What is it that holds us back, and what is it that sets us free? This week we’re doing a case study on the beliefs, habits, and motivations that dictate 90% of your happiness and success. And we’ll show how a young lady stood up to learn these principles from Tony, how she went home with a new action plan, and how within two months meeting Tony, she completely transformed her life.
These five videos are an excerpt from a new project we’re developing called Outstanding Relationships. Each video is about twenty minutes long and will guide you through some of the most powerful principles of Strategic Intervention.
Enjoy!
Mark Peysha
CEO
Robbins-Madanes Training
Part 1: Emotional Patterns
In today’s video you’ll learn about how emotions are created – and how to “break down” any experience in your life into three things that you can control and use to shape the emotions you want to have. Enjoy.
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Part 2: Shaping Your Emotions
How do you change your emotions? Our culture has become overrun with messages claiming that there’s some mysterious emotional part of us that can only be influenced by a pill – as if taking an anti-depressant or anti-anxiety med were like an antibiotic that will just “wipe that problem out.” Only now are studies becoming widespread exposing the negative side-effects, risks, and failures of psychotropic drugs.
On the other hand, we all know the pull between what we want to feel and what we’re actually feeling. Ever felt sad, mad, or scared despite “knowing better” intellectually? If feeling arrives faster than thought, how can you change it with thought? Today’s session will answer those questions. Tony will help Tahnee understand what she’s really feeling when she’s “depressed” and how she can take full control of her emotional reality in a simple, practical way. You’ll also learn how to quickly understand the emotional dynamic of any person you meet. So enjoy the video, and we’ll see you soon.
Part 3: The Seven Master Steps
Strategic Interventions like to follow a master template for creating change, called the Seven Master Steps. This is a sequence refined by Tony over the years for making sure that you fully understand the person and they feel understood, so that you can direct them through the actions and experiences that will create lasting change. SI is a very active and strategic approach to coaching, where you actually give the person a short, easy task to do that will create massive changes for them. For instance, the way Tony is inviting Tahnee to “put herself in depression” is actually permanently altering the way Tahnee will experience depression in the future (i.e., she won’t have it anymore). We do a comprehensive training on these steps, but in today’s mini-training you’ll see how Tony helps Tahnee by putting the seven master steps to work.
Part 4: Life Stages
Why do some coaching methods fail – leading to a quick “pump up” followed by a loss of momentum… while Strategic Interventions create permanent change where people not only help themselves, but then turn around to help others? The focus of Strategic Intervention is to create a processional effect – where the person who previously needed help, now becomes the helper, like ripples expanding on a pond. Very often a person who gets helped by Tony, when we check in with them later, reports that they’ve had a major effect on 5-10 other people in their lives.
You see, in order for personal change to be truly effective, it must a) engage the person’s innermost human needs b) empower that person in their relationships c) be right for their stage of life – in other words, trigger a whole new level of growth in the person d) ultimately lead to leadership and contribution – helping others.
Today we’ll focus on a) your needs and c) your life stage. These two go together. You see, every moment of your life, every decision you make is influenced by the way you meet what we call your Six Human Needs. This is a universal way to understand anyone in your life – especially yourself. If you can understand and create a change in your human needs, you transform your life (guaranteed). The second factor is understanding life stages. You see, life is made up of a series of life stages, where the “game changes” and requires a whole new approach. If you can understand and manage your stage in life, you’ll trigger a whole new level of growth. And our students know that if they can understand someone’s life stage, they can easily help them meet the priorities that will move them forward.
Part 5: Paying It Forward (Breakthrough Day!)
As we said, lasting change is rooted in our needs to grow and to contribute beyond ourselves. Raise your standards in any area of life, and soon you’ll be looking around to see whom you can help. And that’s the next level for you.
Now that we’ve gone through the Six Human Needs, today we’re going to see how by understanding her needs and the way she has been using them, Tahnee made a conscious choice that transformed her life, career, relationship… you name it. And as we visit with Tahnee several years later, you’ll see how by making a commitment to growth and contribution, Tahnee found herself not only prospering but becoming a leader and a positive example… even to her mother.
Enjoy!
I hope you’ve enjoyed this training series as much as Cloe and I have. PLEASE SHARE YOUR COMMENTS AND QUESTIONS below – and keep your eyes on your inbox for your next video from Robbins-Madanes Training.
Talk soon,
Mark Peysha
CEO
Robbins-Madanes Training
Oddly enough that just made me not want to smoke a cigarette. And how it met my needs. Literally changed my mindset on it, and a lot of other stuff.
Dear dear Tony,
I am an NLP Trainer Time Line Therapy master trainer, I teach Tai chi & qigong, and yet I am amazed with your wisdom, understanding and ability to get to the real staff. One hour with you gives me at least 8 houres of thinking what and how I will do next, in my personal life and in my professional life. So THANK YOU. Now I have a big request and achalenging one from you. I live in a crazy wonderful country, I wish I had your skills to perform miracles, I don’t. So if we will orgenize for you to come to Israel would you come? We need you!!!!
Lily
Thank you for the video. A very good work. Respect.
Thank you so much for making me understand myself better through these videos. I will teach myself another story, another theme. I will jump to another chapter of my life, the others helped me to come to this new life today!
It gives me also the opportunity to teach others, specifically my two grown children and other people that I encounter in my life every day.
Thank you again, wish you lots of blessings and success in all what you do!
AnnMarie
Awesome work Tony!! I love what you do. One day I will do your training! Keep up the good work,you are amazing : )
I appreciate the simplistic methods used to explain how such strategic coaching can have an intense impact beyond the persons imagination. It was like unleashing or giving her permission to live to her potential! Thank you for this complimentary training-
Thank you so much for these videos to all the team.Tony, Cloe, Mark..
this special one trategict intervention has click on my crazy eight too.
there is a difference. I am divorced for 7 years, with 2 children and no partner.
My crazy eight goes from feeling bad about myself with all that I let myself down my pity and inhability to cope and see myself that I m not going to make it to what I want. To the anger that is needed to control a situation and get the strength to keep going. There is a lot of fear.
How will I know what is THAT, that will satisfy my needs in way that will be not for stagnation and manipulaton but for my full expresion my best me. THAT WILL REPLACE THE CRAZY EIGHT?
I found hope and am taking a leap to move to quality problem instead of staying at safe problem, thank you, I am living from now on.
Ahahahaha-I’ll tell you what, Mr. Tony, for me the key has always been humor. As a life coach, I employ humor and am a bit unconventional in my methods, some would say even a bit rough around the edges, probably owing to the fact that I’ve always thought the way to get around bullshit is to walk through it. I have so much respect for this industry, so much love. I just approach it in a straightforward, no words minced kind of way. I avoided watching your videos for some time…I always thought it was because of all the Tony hype. I am laughing my ass off typing this. God had the perfect plan. Just when I needed it most, I stumbled across this giant of a man (in more ways than one, my friend, with a voice that sounded as if he drinks gravel martinis every night…online two nights ago. First sentence out of your mouth, man I was hooked. You reached right down my gullet and so much stuff came up that of course, I always knew, but sort of stuffed down, compartmentalized. I admire your raw ability to keep things real and not sugar coat them. I will be investing in everything you publish/market. Your heart is the biggest thing about you, Tony. So nice to laugh with myself…laugh at myself, in a loving way. Thank God I’ve always had that gift, though some times getting to that humor has been more difficult than others. I suppose I’ve gone around my ass to get to my elbow to tell you this: Thanks for being on this planet, thanks for having a set and for being willing to share what you know, for caring about people and about truly helping in a “Hey, if you’re gonna be here, you’re gonna work, pal” kind of way. Your style is one I identify with and quite comfortable for me, and you’re the first I’ve seen that has the balls to do what you do and say what you say. It’s all about getting through, and you are superb. God bless you, Tony, you are a precious spirit and your unstoppable beacon of light is nothing short of inspirational.
Mucho Amore,
Deborah
I am confused. Is the Robbins Madanes Coach Training an actual program where you can get certified or is it just a bunch of free videos? I think the videos are great, but I am really interested in getting certified in this training. Is there a way to do that? Please help! Thank you!!! Angie
I am really inspired by the transformations you do to people, makes me want to become a Motivational Speaker and help people change their lives for the better.
Thank you Tony
I truly enjoyed this set of videos, I am studying to be a strategy intervention coach. This has given foundation to my training by first learning to understanding me. It was insightful and has already strengthened me personally and others.During, the training session I received several calls from a friend who was having difficulty with his co-workers. I was able to advise him by explaining the 6 human needs, his, as as well as his co-workers from the information that he gave me. He later called me to tell me that he sees the situation different know he seemed more confidant in his ability to manage the situation. My desire is to continue my training my 2 biggest needs that I am pursuing is growth and contribution. I would like to know how much would it cost to become a certified Strategy Intervention Coach ? Enjoy Tony Robbins immensely have been listening for years. I have become more emotionally mature where his teachings resonate “inside” of me it’s not just “head” knowledge anymore it is now principles to live by and live for.
I am looking for professional carrier as a psychologist.
Wow! This has been truly an experience! As I listened to these videos, I smile now because I saw myself. I remember when I was dating my husband,and how that feeling of uncertainty permeated my life. I had so much fear of the unknown and yet I took that leap and we have been married for 11 years now. He is a wonderful man. But only until recently,after the transition of my mother are we really enjoying each other, including moving to a new state. When you speak of love and connection, I think of my relationships with my family and how I almost lost the love of my life by not wanting to let go of my “safe problem(s)” in order face and embrace life changes/ challenges. I love my husband, my family and helping people. However, I found myself in a mess. I thank God for everyone in my life, but I found myself over-compensating for what my mother did not have in her life and relationship with others. I thought that somehow this would make up for all of her sadness, and at the same time, I would remain in a secure relationship (despite the fact that it was hurting me). It was making me significant in her life, after 4 sons. And although my husband would tell me, I did not understand, or rather I did not want to at the time.I remember the frustration and resentment when he would express his observations. I now know that I was feeding into my family’s resentment against me having a new family (husband and children). I was living in my “crazy eight”. My relationship deteriorated with my husband at the time, which resulted in me walking out with the children, and going of course, back to my mother’s house. I had to learn it hard, but I learned!
When he did not come for me, then I realized I had to confront myself and stop hiding. I had devoted my life taking care of my parents and others but not me. Now I had little ones who were dependent upon me and this is what made me “snap out of it”. I began to see similar sadness in my children that I had experienced in the very house I grew up in. I remember saying to myself “not another generation”. My mother was a very good person, she was unhappy in her personal relationships from the past. And she never healed, in fact, I know this contributed to her death at the young age of sixty-two. Because we were so close, I had begun to let her life dictate mine, especially my marital relationship. I realized that the lack of courage and self-love came from my childhood and the relationships with my family. I looked at life with sadness, instead of realizing all the beauty before me. Shortly before she passed, we had several confrontations which made me really ask the important questions and overcome the real fear I had of love and trusting another, especially since my parents’ relationships were in such turmoil. I had to make the most important life-changing decision the most difficult. I had to leave everything and everyone I knew and move away to be with my husband (who was working on improving himself, and we kept in constant contact). This move took me away from all my comfort zones, but it was necessary. I found my voice, self, and love being a mother and a wife, above all else. I have helped heal others, but I yearned to heal. And now, I had to look back at my parents’ lives, love them for who they were and the lessons (both positive and negative)i learned. God is ultimately in control, but you are given lessons to learn to influence your journey. Now my children are happier, as well as my life compliment, and I. We are still growing and learning, but it is a good feeeling to love and trust, and be courageous. It is truly empowering!!
Now I know I truly will be able to assist others in their healing!!!!
Thankyou so very much i have learned so much about my self and what i need to do to move forward and it has showd me how to help others better i seem to always have a lot of people with problems come to me for help. I want to be a life coach !
Once again i say: I am speachlessss!…What a wonderful way to heal emotions, with all that clarity, focus and love, I am in shock.
Thank you Tony, thank you so much. it is the first time that I see somehting like this in human terms. That I feel entusiastic about learning another kind of healing.
Through these videos I can now see that I am stuck in some areas of my life, I have not the passion and the confidence I use to have, my mother died last january and after taking care of her during a few years, spetialy last year it was so hard, I find myself lost in this new stage. As you can see, english is not my language, so I have to see the videos again, but by this first watch, I am totally moved and I now I need help.
My path has always had a variety of things. And one of them very important was to help others healing their emotions and find their master within. But now, I feel lost. I now I have to heal several things in myself, my question is, how can I start, is there a way to have a session with somebody of your team? I wish to be a coach life and I will some time soon in the future. My vocabulary in english is limited, I wish I can say more, but it is enough for the moment, So thank you again, Tony, so grateful, Nuria
Eye-opening, heart-opening, promising, stimulating, deeply moving. For a long time I’ve been challenged by lack of money to open out my life and give me the financial backing to engage in my heart’s desire – offering the sort of life-changing backing to young disadvantaged teenagers and their parents that Tony offers to his audiences. I have been given a second lifetime in this one span, to engage ore deeply and fully in my care of young people, and also in the starting of and greater investment in a new marriage, new family,my joint equal passion. Thank you Tony & Cloe’ !
Thanks Tony you are brilliant. I have often felt stock in my life ,not knowing how to break through. This has to be the breakthrough……
Tony, I love this series on depression. You are so on point and inspiring. I wish you had this same series but with a man
and his way of handling depression men tend to act so tough and although we all have a feminine and masculine side. I love see you break down a man in the same way and you applying your tools.
Thank you.
Hello Tony,and Crew
I truly appreciate YOUR INCREDIBLE CONTRIBUTION TO ALL, for Consciousness SAKE.I mostly love and feel your deep love.You must have suffer so much too. I can almost see it.THANK FOR FOR YOUR VISTORIOUS TURNING AROUND. Ilike your deep voice too.
I’ll love to hear from someone.G
Thanks Tony and Cleo for your inspiring and life altering video. I got a lot out of this. I’ve written notes and have some areas to work on. I can see and understand a lot about myself, as I’m sure I’m not alone so feel quite connected. One of the human needs shifted onto a higher level of living. I can see why I haven’t been able to see clearly the future, not knowing what to do kept me safe from harm and hurt which I’ve experienced too often, so I expect it. Love and grief isn’t a good mix either and I was keeping myself away from love because of the grief of my parents dying suddenly when I was young on separate occasions. I see now there is no grief, only transformation and honestly I can’t avoid it. Another one bites the dust! The third is variety, so now I must venture out into the world and try all sorts of things in safe environments to discover a journey or journeys. I’m getting braver all the time. Oh and growing I am.
Hi Tony
Whever I watch your videos, I feel that you are talking about me and my life. Now I know my fears, and I can distinguish my quality problems. But I don’t know what can be my massive actions and my RPM. I don’t have leverage or a supportive person whom I can depend on, my husband is a close minded person who is blocking me for whatever I plan, I don’t want to leave him (my quality problem) and I’m thinking there should be a way. Obviouly I am getting the same results by sticking to my old addictions (which gives me certainty , connection and significant) I want to grow, I really want it, I want to get out of this situation, but I don’t know how. I feel my quality problems are way bigger than what I can handle… I need your help…
This is wonderful! There is hope and I am inspired. I now further understand the power of brain to manipulate the triad. This power can be used in constructive ways to improve and be fulfilled. Keep doing your great work and looking forward to more information.
THANK YOU SO MUCH, I’M GOING TO TAKE ADVANTAGE OF THIS VIDEOS AND USE THEM TO HELP OTHERS AND HELP MYSELF STOP PROCRASTINATING. GOD BLESS YOU TONY
WOW, Firstly, what a lovely woman, secondly Tony I love the way you work man, I my self have suffered with depresion a few times, the first time I thought I would die, 12 years I suffered in the darkness of my own thoughts, Christ I was a mess, the second time was purely the feeling of not been in control and not been able to help my sons after they both had bad bike crashes 7 months apart.
This set of films has helped me, even though I am myself a qualified therapist, I have had problems I think since the death of my father in 1959, I was three years old. I must have developed an, IM NEVER GOING TO BE RICH ATTITUDE, as I heard this said MANY TIMES, we will always be poor, this was something I heard, but I must have PARTIALLY overcome, I own my own house but it is nothing special, I have a few thousand pounds in the bank, but cannot use it for any old thing, so I still feel stuck. My wife has a low wage, very low, and I have benefits as I sign on, this is £71.00 a week about $90.00. I would love to attend one of Tonys, seminars, but could not affor it, I did attend Bandlers in London 7 years ago, 3 thousand pounds all together, for what use it was I should have paid it off the mortgage. I feel these clips have helped me understand some of my issues, although they are not eliminated, If I cannot sort my own issues out, how can I expect to sort other peoples out!!?? Mnay thanks for these inspiring works. I know I am good with people, and helping them overcome the issues they have, but I just cannot seem to get regular clients.
Shaun Thompson
Thank you. Knowledge is power and you have a gift for educating. God bless you Tony.
thank you i have had a break threw ive struggled in my merrige for tweety three yr and im a sick women because of this( fibromyalgia)i fill a sense of relief i do believe my husband really love which is now my ex-husband who know he might just be my husband again depresion and anger have been a big part of my life no more thank you again
Wow! Wow! Wow!
Why why why do we always go to the negative side of our thoughts! I Love that part!! We must go to the positive!!!
Incredibly interesting!
Thanks so much
Calgary, Alberta
Thank you so much for the 5 part strategic intervention breakdown. I saw this video before but didn’t really get it. The way you edited the video in segments and interjected Cloe and Mark’s comments really helped. Also I realize one reason I may have had a hard time getting it was because it may have hit too close to home, in which case this time I paused and replayed various points several times over to really let it sink in and evaluate things for my self. Thanks again for your time and detail. You are appreciated. God Bless!
I grew up with a Dad who was a wife beater and a drunk. My Dad had numerous affairs and my Mom had boys friends and wasn’t ashamed if she got caught, she even molested me as a kid. I have been to therapy and been on all kinds of drugs to ease the pain(Prescription drugs) My Mom to this days says there was never a book on how to raise kids? She has always had excuses and so have I. It has been easier to deal with all the disappointment’s, depression, sadness that these 2 people my parents have given me. I lost my job and cannot seem to find another one, my sister went through a bad divorce and she moved back in with me till she gets on her feet. Now I realize I am still living in my childhood home, the place where the beatings happened, the cheating and the childhood abuse. My sister talks about the past and not working and all these feeling of not being loved has all come rushing back. I want to change my life and feel alive, watching these clips has helped some what but I want to change the crazy eight cycle, Help?
Dear Tony, Cleo, Mark and Team Thank you so much for your generosity of spirit for all that you share. Watching this has helped me beyond measure in gaining understanding of the stage I am in and why I have been struggling with a couple of situations for a long time. I have had some realisations recently and gained a sense of what was going on for me but watching this has shown me the components and now I can clearly see the whole picture. So now I can make changes and feel more able to take the necessary risks! In seeing this I can also use this understanding to help others gain clarity too. One of the realisations I had recently was that I had largely lost touch with my gentle feminine side and that I want to experience that again and find a partner with whom I can share love and feel cared for, as I believe when all is said and done that is the ultimate experience of life. Hearing what you said to Tahnee gave me further recognition of this feeling of loss of connection with my femininity. I hope to meet a man with whom I can share the tenderness that I see in the relationship between you and Sage and also in the one Tahnee has created with her husband. With all my heart thank you for your compassion and the work you do. Blessings Claire
TonyMadanesTonyMadanes – you two are giving us all a beautiful door to initiate hope and healing. I see the 6 needs and the actions i take directing to one or more. Most of all your big focus on MAKING OUR RELATIONSHIP #ONE is SO TRUE! something my wife and i have come to do in the last decade. IT took help and it takes repetition and then it only gets BETTER! thankyou thankyou for your generous generous gift!!
Early at Big Bear Lake and Wynyard SK
Wow. these videos have enlightened me today and yesterday. Im feeling sad and also thoughts of hope knowing that any negative feelings i possess are in my control. The end of this video really forced me to take a deeper look at myself. amazing.
This set of films has helped me alot ,This is wonderful! There is hope and I am inspired . thank you tony .
Thank you for these presentations-they stop and stall too much..Even when your click here to correct or use an alternative player was implemented, nothing improved..hope that gets corrected for your own benefit, as well as for your audience. Thank you for your time and energies in regard to sharing these life wisdom tools! http://www.marydusina.com
Rev. Mary Dusina
I truly believe there are no casualties in life I felt very depressed with many problems when I was searching for videos on you tube and found yours. I have been looking at them and wow… they are really helping me understand many things in my life and making me move into action. I like the way you coach and would like to continue receiving your videos. Plis if you have them in spanish I would love to share them with some friends. thank you
lorena
Thank you, it is amazing how you made me understand what my contradictory needs are and how I was just connecting with my love ones without growing and giving.I am ready to grow, it will be kinda hard because I was really used to be in my comfort zone but it sill be worth it! thank you again Robbin your coaching is really amazing
lorena
Wow, Thank you so much Tony and Cloe!
Life dictated that I slow down (I broke my leg), and it allowed me to just listen to your messages over and over and over again. I forwarded it to my children, and o! what a change it made to the state of my mind! It is a rainy day, and I’m experiencing certain amount of discomfort. MY children chose to go to their cottage and enjoy their weekend. In the past this would be enough to send me into this deep stage of depression, but today I feel happy, and it is because you have helped me make a discovery. I may be still falling into the old patterns now and then, but it will not be so permanent anymore. I know that it will help me with the depression problem. I do however have another issue, and can’t figure that one out…. It is a “chronic” tardiness. I have no idea why and how it started, and what purpose it may be serving in my life. I know that I hate being like that, I hate disappointing people all the time. It is definitely not satisfying my need for certainty, uncertainty, love or significance. I hate it, others hate it in me. Why is it in my life and why can’t I change it. I swear I tried, I really, really tried and yet I’m still late all the time. Please help.
Christina
Thank you for such great videos. I’ve been similar to Tanhee (trust in men) and can see that my problem was having to be in control, so not letting myself be feminine and actually causing a reflection of character (pushing him away) before we even started, although I blamed it on him! Recently I had my breakthrough by myself. I started to see the pattern in my parents and grand parents and how it was passed to me (not that I’m blaming them, I know they were doing the best they could.) It’s great to find something that will help me to break the pattern of my singlehood (6 years of it!!)…I’m going to reconnect to me and my feminine side and stop trying to control life. We all deserve love, including me!
May god bless you on your service in uplifting the human spirit
Thanks Tony for this incredible training. I’m counselor and I learned a lor of things that many times happen to me and I ignored it. God bless you and your works. You’re so charismatic.
Love this series. Unfortunately, Part 4 on Success will not load and I really need to listen to it. The information that you give is right on for my life.
Fascinting, I never thought of looking at life through that prism. I wish I had heard of this years before, but this is extremely insightful.
wow ive attended and studied many modalities and this rocks
I hope by watching it more often I will be able to not only do it for myself but hopefully later with others it is truly amazing and thanks xx
Unbeliveable keep up the work of helping people I hope one day you can help me too
Thank you for such an extensive and informative presentation of these concepts. There are always new nuggets I take away every time I watch one of these videos!
Fabulous thanks so much for your generous sharing! Both of you are awesome!
I have learned so much from this series. I started out with the intention to learn how to strengthen my ability to help others and ended up helping myself and other family members. Thanks!
I had a massive breakthrough from this film. I stopped and asked myself all the questions along the way and I have stepped up and out of my crazy 8. Wow, is all I can say, this has changed my life