What is it that holds us back, and what is it that sets us free? This week we’re doing a case study on the beliefs, habits, and motivations that dictate 90% of your happiness and success. And we’ll show how a young lady stood up to learn these principles from Tony, how she went home with a new action plan, and how within two months meeting Tony, she completely transformed her life.
These five videos are an excerpt from a new project we’re developing called Outstanding Relationships. Each video is about twenty minutes long and will guide you through some of the most powerful principles of Strategic Intervention.
Part 1: Emotional Patterns
In today’s video you’ll learn about how emotions are created – and how to “break down” any experience in your life into three things that you can control and use to shape the emotions you want to have. Enjoy.
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Part 2: Shaping Your Emotions
How do you change your emotions? Our culture has become overrun with messages claiming that there’s some mysterious emotional part of us that can only be influenced by a pill – as if taking an anti-depressant or anti-anxiety med were like an antibiotic that will just “wipe that problem out.” Only now are studies becoming widespread exposing the negative side-effects, risks, and failures of psychotropic drugs.
On the other hand, we all know the pull between what we want to feel and what we’re actually feeling. Ever felt sad, mad, or scared despite “knowing better” intellectually? If feeling arrives faster than thought, how can you change it with thought? Today’s session will answer those questions. Tony will help Tahnee understand what she’s really feeling when she’s “depressed” and how she can take full control of her emotional reality in a simple, practical way. You’ll also learn how to quickly understand the emotional dynamic of any person you meet. So enjoy the video, and we’ll see you soon.
Part 3: The Seven Master Steps
Strategic Interventions like to follow a master template for creating change, called the Seven Master Steps. This is a sequence refined by Tony over the years for making sure that you fully understand the person and they feel understood, so that you can direct them through the actions and experiences that will create lasting change. SI is a very active and strategic approach to coaching, where you actually give the person a short, easy task to do that will create massive changes for them. For instance, the way Tony is inviting Tahnee to “put herself in depression” is actually permanently altering the way Tahnee will experience depression in the future (i.e., she won’t have it anymore). We do a comprehensive training on these steps, but in today’s mini-training you’ll see how Tony helps Tahnee by putting the seven master steps to work.
Part 4: Life Stages
Why do some coaching methods fail – leading to a quick “pump up” followed by a loss of momentum… while Strategic Interventions create permanent change where people not only help themselves, but then turn around to help others? The focus of Strategic Intervention is to create a processional effect – where the person who previously needed help, now becomes the helper, like ripples expanding on a pond. Very often a person who gets helped by Tony, when we check in with them later, reports that they’ve had a major effect on 5-10 other people in their lives.
You see, in order for personal change to be truly effective, it must a) engage the person’s innermost human needs b) empower that person in their relationships c) be right for their stage of life – in other words, trigger a whole new level of growth in the person d) ultimately lead to leadership and contribution – helping others.
Today we’ll focus on a) your needs and c) your life stage. These two go together. You see, every moment of your life, every decision you make is influenced by the way you meet what we call your Six Human Needs. This is a universal way to understand anyone in your life – especially yourself. If you can understand and create a change in your human needs, you transform your life (guaranteed). The second factor is understanding life stages. You see, life is made up of a series of life stages, where the “game changes” and requires a whole new approach. If you can understand and manage your stage in life, you’ll trigger a whole new level of growth. And our students know that if they can understand someone’s life stage, they can easily help them meet the priorities that will move them forward.
Part 5: Paying It Forward (Breakthrough Day!)
As we said, lasting change is rooted in our needs to grow and to contribute beyond ourselves. Raise your standards in any area of life, and soon you’ll be looking around to see whom you can help. And that’s the next level for you.
Now that we’ve gone through the Six Human Needs, today we’re going to see how by understanding her needs and the way she has been using them, Tahnee made a conscious choice that transformed her life, career, relationship… you name it. And as we visit with Tahnee several years later, you’ll see how by making a commitment to growth and contribution, Tahnee found herself not only prospering but becoming a leader and a positive example… even to her mother.
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